“It’s no good trying to get rid of your own aloneness. You’ve got to stick to it — all your life. Only at times, at times, the gap will be filled in. At times! But you have to wait for the times. Accept your own aloneness and stick to it, all…
I am with you there, it’s far too easy to get mired down by stuff like that so I’m glad to hear you’re taking the pragmatic approach.
“It’s no good trying to get rid of your own aloneness. You’ve got to stick to it — all your life. Only at times, at times, the gap will be filled in. At times! But you have to wait for the times. Accept your own aloneness and stick to it, all your life. And then accept the times when the gap is filled in, when they come. But they’ve got to come. You can’t force them.”
I have to disagree with this, it’s not wrong per se but I realized in my early 20s that sometimes interesting new people won’t find me, I have to go find them.
I went from standard issue geeky wallflower type (which is REAL easy if you are handicapped AND somewhat insular) to a rather well connected individual who can make friends at the drop of a hat, all I did a little differently was get out, be a little observant and talk to people.
It’s not easy when you first try this because there’s that wall of fear saying “what if this person doesn’t like me” well, that’s fine, not everyone you meet is gonna like you (and vice versa, believe me!) but the more people you talk with the less scary it gets AND really you won’t remember the people you don’t connect with but you’ll sure remember the people you do.
Getting over this initial hump is the hardest part, for me it was thinking that talking unintroduced to someone was kinda creepy and/or uncomfortable but y’know most of the time when you meet someone new unless you do connect with them you’ll probably never see ‘em again, can’t fear the awkward moments in life ‘cause brotha they happen all the time, the more often it happens and the less of a big deal it is.
The weird part to all this? It came to me in a dream, a mermaid told me that I should try being more proactive, and darn it, she was right.
So Lesson 2: Always listen to the dream mermaid… (-: